ADULTHOOD: ARE YOU READY FOR IT?




"Adulting" is a  web series released in 2018 that follows two best friends Nikhat and Ray, struggling to succeed in the urban jungle of Mumbai. The web series is supposed to give a raw peek into how difficult it is to be independent in Mumbai and how much one has to struggle to juggle friendships, relationships, and work. Although it totally ignores the fact that they already have a fancy high-paying job, in a fancy company with fancy colleagues, enough to pay for their fancy house in a fancy locality. This is just an example in the world of visual cinema that gets everything wrong about adulthood. Sure they portray how to survive but who talks about how to face it for the first time? Who talks about going away from family for the first time? Who talks about fitting in or standing out? Who talks about how to navigate your way into the real world?

My first-hand experience with adulthood can be summed up in only one word: HARD. It has been chaotic, stressful, full of anxiety, and bewildering. It's a maze of twist and turn on every corner, aimed to polish you further but ends up bringing you down. You continuously get anxious looking at how much others have accomplished or have the motivation to, and are still lost on how to do so. The first thought that always pops up in your mind is "Who are these people? Where do they come from?" You dream big but lose your confidence along the line. You are expected to live your life to the fullest but still do 4 internships a year with a 4 grade GPA. Sometimes I wonder if adulthood is a myth, because I believe, or like to believe that not everyone has it together and they all cry under their blankets at 3am, they are just really showing up to people.

So how do you get out of this maze? Turns out no compass or map can solve this mystery, the answer is all in you. Much like the ancient wisdom protected by the Freemasons, that believed that each one of us has the ability to become godlike. Maybe you are not ready to face the maze, and that's OK, don't push yourself to it. The loneliness you feel right now is temporary because I am sure there are hundreds of others in your hostel who feel the same and you think everyone is well-versed and is not alone, trust me I am still catching up. 

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